Are You the Alpha? How to Tell Who’s Leading the Pack (and What to Do About It)

Are You the Alpha? How to Tell Who’s Leading the Pack (and What to Do About It)

Chewy Chums

Alpha Isn’t About Aggression—It’s About Guidance

Forget what you’ve seen on reality shows. Being the alpha isn’t about dominance or intimidation—it’s about trust, clarity, and calm leadership. Dogs thrive under structure, and when they don’t see it from you, they may try to fill the gap.

Let’s break down how to recognize if your dog is running the show—and how to course-correct with confidence, not fear.



Signs Your Dog Thinks It’s the Alpha

  • Pushes past you through doors without waiting
  • Refuses to respond to basic cues like “sit” or “come”
  • Guards toys, beds, or people
  • Demands attention through barking, nudging, or whining
  • Ignores boundaries—especially during play

Source: American Kennel Club (AKC) on Dominance and Behavior



What to Do If Leadership Is Off Balance

  • Control Resources: Make your dog “work” for toys, meals, and access through basic cues like “sit” or “wait.”
  • Set Boundaries: Stop letting your dog dictate when play starts, when walks happen, or when attention is given.
  • Use Consistent Cues: Random commands confuse—stick to a few clear signals and enforce them every time.
  • Lead by Example: Calm, assertive behavior teaches your dog how to mirror your energy.

Source: Victoria Stilwell on Leadership vs. Dominance



Where NeverBite™ Fits In

  • Redirects demanding or pushy behavior into structured play
  • Teaches control-based cues like “drop it,” “wait,” and “gentle”
  • Lets you lead the game with purpose—not react to chaos

NeverBite™ is a reinforcement tool—not a shortcut. It helps pups practice respect through movement and repetition.



Final Word From the Crew

You don’t need to be loud or harsh to lead—you just need to be consistent. When your dog sees you setting the tone calmly and clearly, they’ll follow. And tools like NeverBite™ help keep the structure going through play.

🏴☠ Lead the crew. Train the pack. Build trust with NeverBite™.

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